Blog 06

By April 25, 2019Doc Blog

This is our discussion for April 25, 2019, at 7PM eastern time.

How do you deal with the grief of losing a loved one? How do you turn your pain into purpose?

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  • Janifere James says:

    Dealing with the loss of a love one can be quite intense. Losing a spouse, a dear friend, or relative brings about sadness and depression. I experienced the tragic loss of my first cousin who was a young girl in high school. I was in so much grief I cared less about seeing a new day. I didn’t express how I felt with anyone. The only way I began to release this painful grief was “time” and prayer. There is a purpose to everything under the sun.
    Mrs. James

  • Dr. Whit. says:

    I have felt the loss and pain from losing loved ones many times and each time, it never gets easier. My grief occurs in stages, and the first stage is mourning and extreme sadness. Then, I begin to talk to the people the are the closest to me about how I feel. I hold onto the memories with little keepsakes of them, so that I can always have a little piece of them me. I feel like little angels are constantly around me and it makes me feel so secure. As time passes, the pain from the loss gets easier to bear because I know that they are in Heaven, singing with the other angels. Reflecting on great memories, times we’ve shared or their favorite things to say and places to go always keeps the people that I have lost close to my heart. More and more I am learning to embrace that we are all spiritual beings having a human experience.

  • Dr. Whit says:

    Hi Lester,
    That’s an excellent way to deal with grief. Turning something that brings pain and sorrow into positive fuel that drives you to do great works in your community. Love it! Thanks for sharing!

  • Jeanette Brathwaite says:

    In June 2016, I decided to follow the footsteps of my dear friend Eucalene (knew since we were 5) and become a teacher, I waited to tell her the news because she always came to ATL each August from Barbados. Late June I sent her a text, and her reply was, “will try, feeling sick. Think I have gastro”. I was shocked because the English teacher only wrote in the ‘Queen’s English’ and here I was getting incomplete sentences but little did I know that my dear 47 year old friend would go to meet her savior two days later. Her ‘gastro’ was actually signs of a slowly building heart attack. It was such a dark time because she was the healthiest person I knew who stayed the same size we were in high school. I love when she came to visit because I would have home-cooked meals everyday. My family was in shock, our numerous friends were all in shock and her current and former students were inconsolable. My biggest regrets were that i did not get to say goodbye and she never knew i became a teacher. Typing this still brings tears to my eyes for the friend who was like my sister. Dealing with the grief came from Eucalene’s deep faith and her belief that only God can control our destiny. My mom had died in March 2016, so I looked at it as Eucalene was now taking care of her in heaven. I will never say that this is an easy process but human instinct allows us to continue with day to day life and eventually memories of the person fades into the background until something like this bring it to the foreground of our lives again. What I can say is the pain you feel decreases over time as you learn to live a life without that person. Sorry for the long winded answer.

  • Lester Clark says:

    How do I deal with the grief of losing a love one? I keep my faith in God and cherished the memories that my love ones brought in my life. I Channel that energy into doing good deeds in my Community giving back! And that became my purpose that fueled my Community Outreach..

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